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I help people in longtime relationships break free from painful cycles of conflict that have left them feeling stuck in a rut for years.

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I’m Doctor Kristina Harter, and I have been working with couples as a reseacher and clinical psychologist for more than two decades. In that time, I have observed two essential truths for struggling couples. First, couples who have become stuck in a rut are there because they have become trapped, repeating the same core conflict over and over again. And second, that is good news. Because it means there is ONE essential problem to identify and solve, and  with the right knowledge, tools and support, motivated couples can and do readily get unstuck!

Everything worthwhile in our lives requires our attention and investment. With a the right kind of investment and care, you will rediscover the intimacy, connection and fun in your  marriage or long-term partnership.  

The Unstuck Marriage is a life-enriching 5-step, 12-week course that I systematically developed drawing from the most powerful insights from the over 20,000 hours I have spent helping people with their relationships. It is an interactive coaching program aimed at educating stuck couples and individuals in stuck relationships. It provides step by step solutions for couples, radical new perspectives on love, and proven tools for  building lasting change into your relationship. 

My Expertise:

Helping couples who have been stuck in repeated patterns of conflict get unstuck for good. 

Who I Work With:

People in longterm, committed relationships who are ready to invest in lasting change.

This Includes:

  • Married Couples

  • Longterm Partners

  • Individuals in Committed Relationships
    (both partners DO NOT need to be present to participate in The Unstuck Marriage)

Note: Suggested length of relationship is a minimum of seven years

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Rediscover the Intimacy, Connection and Fun That First Drew You to One Another

In less than 30 minutes, you're going to learn the essential  components of my step-by-step approach to getting your relationship unstuck for good. Rewrite your love story!

Watch the free 30-minutes training where I'll teach you how couples get stuck, and what to do about it.

Coaching is Not Therapy

The Unstuck Marriage is an educational course and is not a substitute for therapy, though the training can be used in conjunction with psychotherapy. The following is a list of indicators that should help you determine if further support might be necessary.

 

  • Mental Health Concerns: If you are experiencing significant symptoms of depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues that are affecting your ability to function, you might want to find a therapist in your community. 

 

  • Substance abuse: If you are struggling with substance abuse or addiction, it is important to seek treatment from an addiction specialist. 

 

  • Past trauma: If you have experienced significant trauma in the past, which is untreated, it may be important to seek treatment from a trauma specialist. 

 

  • Lack of Safety: Your safety is also an essential priority; if you are experiencing abuse, call the domestic violence hotline at  800-799-7233 (SAFE).